Reason: my in-law is India and i am chinese. I eat india food but my in-law is Vegetarian and they only cook india food and other sometime(but not all the time). I am type person who eat different kind of food like thai, chinese, america, pasta and others
I do not wanted to eat india food every day for next few months after the baby is born.
I know a newborn I may need help. My husband is fine either way. It just that i have to cook, while taking care of baby.
I think i am mean person not let them come.
I am not due until Oct.
Should i talk to my-mother-in-law say i cook few times but not india food?
I feel like bad person.. I have not seen them for 3 years after i got marry to my husband.
This is they second grandchild. They first grandchild was from my sister-in-law.
Should i wait later to have them come visit or should i just work something out with my-mother-in-law?
My parents is not far from Me. I know they would help me and i know not with cooking.
I Feel like bad person.
they eat nan and rice all the time.. And last time I gain all my weight back from all the good cooking my -mother-in-law did… And i try to lost and i did but this time after baby it going to be hard
And in expensive at the same time we have to get tickets and buy all the baby stuff..
first- i kind of know how to cook.. I am not bad cook..
second -i have talk to my husband about it.. He said either way is fine with him. IT just that i have to cook and clean up the house while having baby to take care of
Third- I like my -in-laws and i am happy to be they daughter-in-law.
If they want to be there let them. Tell her that right now the food is not agreeing with your stomach so she dont get offended. Dont let that be the reason you tell them not to come. This Grand baby is probably something they are VERY excited about and wants to see very much.
Good luck
Comment by Megan Michelle — September 3, 2006 @ 11:42 am
i think you should talk to your husband and explain why you are concerned about his mom coming. maybe he can talk to her if you are uncomfortable. but don’t automatically count her out just because of her diet. she’ll be alot of help in many other ways. i don’t think anyone with a specific diet would be offended if you didn’t eat the same things every night. as long as you eat a meal with her every few days or so, then you can eat what you want on other days. i think she would be more hurt that you don’t want her help than she would be if you didn’t eat her food
Comment by twosey — September 6, 2006 @ 4:58 pm
Yes it certainly is very rude . The baby has nothing to do with what food you eat. They come to see the baby, not see or eat your food. You should bend a bit and try and have something they might like to eat available.
Comment by connie o — September 9, 2006 @ 4:43 pm
I think that you should work something out with the in-laws. You tell them that it is your house and things will be done your way and when you visit their house, things can be done their way.
Comment by Nicola R — September 9, 2006 @ 10:12 pm
You are not a bad person for not wanting to eat a certain type of food after your baby is born. But I would let them come. You mother should run interference for you and cook all of your meals. (if it can’t happen that way, you could start cooking soon and freeze meals so that your mother in law can just heat up the meals.)
If you have any kind of honest relationship with your in laws, I would just tell them that you enjoy all kinds of meals, or that your mom is really looking forward to cooking lots for you and your husband. After all, they are coming in from out of town, nobody would really expect them to go shopping and cook for all the relatives.
This is your baby, it’s important that you do what is best for you and your husband.
Good luck!
Comment by Katie C — September 12, 2006 @ 7:51 am
Well I too was in the same situration, My inlaws are from peru and I am an born and raised american, it was so hard hard at first, she wanted to do everthing, not giving me the time to be a mommy! My husband of course did mind because it was his mother. I too can eat some of her cooking but sometimes it was nasty! So then I decided to ask my husband to cook for me. I had him explain to her that I just had different taste,(considering that i did not speak spanish), nothing bad, but it is sometimes I really like having a big juicy cheeseburgar.Yes you will need help with the newborn, no lie about that one, but just set limits, because the last thing you want to do is get off on a bad foot with your inlaws. As for me we had our share of arguements, my husband is deployed, so i am having to deal with her myself. But i do have to say communication is the best.
Comment by wierdo_12_green — September 12, 2006 @ 4:38 pm
So let me get this straight-you don’t want your mom in law to come cuz in all honesty, you know she won’t like the food you make, am I right? But, at the same time, you and the baby could use some help.
You don’t want to make your husband feel weird cuz of that so I would suggest to let her come, but only for like a month or two. Try to get her to cook her something with meat for you and when u cook, cook something on the side for her vegie style. You have to comprimise. If you don’t want to do that, then you’ll just have to say no to her coming and deal with ur husband.
Comment by Lynette F — September 15, 2006 @ 9:12 pm