rerun52 asked:
I met her online a few months back and plan on visiting her and her family, I would like to know what to expect from the people and her family, she doesn`t speak very good english, are there certain things i should know first, how should i act, I am an ex-marine and in law enforcement and only been to Iraq, never been to china, and she`s a Buddist and I am non-religous
your best bet is to not to expect anything. you’d hate to make the wrong impression because of some bad information.
Comment by FengHuaXueYue — September 18, 2007 @ 12:21 pm
First, be yourself. Second, be honest and sincere about your relationship and be prepare to open your mind and heart to whatever that will happen.
Comment by slimintelligentcheeky — September 20, 2007 @ 5:44 pm
First off, I do not want you to think I am being mean or judgemental. I do not know what you two have been talking about or how you feel about each. However, I would advise you to be very careful about “falling” for a foreigner. I apologize in advance if what I am about to say is offensive to you. I do not mean to offend, just wanted you to be cautious.
I know a few men who met women online from foreign countries and end up falling for them. Then, these men would spend a ton of money and time to bring these women to United States. However, once the woman got here, they would fled these men, because they just wanted a ticket to the United States. In fact, many already have boyfriends or husbands back in their homeland waiting to come over here too. Please proceed with caution, because you might end up hurting both your heart and wallet.
Now, in terms of family visits, remember one word and that is “respect.” Respect for her family, especially towards her parents and those older than her. Never ever meet a Chinese family without bringing some type of gift. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, like a bottom of wine, chocolate candy, sweets, etc. Perhaps, bring some of your favorite treats from the U.S.
Since her English isn’t that fluent, her family probably doesn’t speak any English either. Therefore, body language will be your main form of communications. So pay attention to your body language.
I am not sure why you brought up the fact that she is a Buddhist. If she is a devout Buddist, her and her family might be vegetarians. So you might want to keep that in mind if you decide to take the family to dinner, you might want to just pick vegetarian dishes. However, you should ask her before hand, because not all Buddhist are strict vegetarians.
Main thing is be yourself. A big smile is the best form of communications. It is universal and quite easy.
Good luck.
Comment by dragonboi1628 — September 21, 2007 @ 1:03 am